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Connection & breaking out of the rules to share

imagesI made an amazing discovery recently that – since discovering it – has led to some really interesting experiences.


2,500 years ago, a musician, mathematician, philosopher and scientist by the name of Pythagoras made an amazing discovery. A teacher in Ancient Greece, he identified that in order for music to play harmoniously there needs to be a little sharp half-step after the 4th note in a scale of 7 notes. This sharp half-step – known as the fifth – turns a scale into an octave and a beautiful harmony is created. There is also a ratio that is created by this new fifth – known as the Golden Number; the number of Creation and of love


In traditional Eastern philosophies, there are said to be seven chakras – or energy centers – that run up the centre of our bodies starting at the base of our spine and emerging through the crown. To add in the extra chakra at the fifth position; the extra half-step at the thymus gland, we create the mathematical and musical octave of chakras that will have the Golden Number ratio. This chakra is where our immune system is linked to in the physical body and it is a link to all lifetimes through time. It is said that this chakra also relates to new ways of communicating (from the heart) using social media, the internet and being able to connect with a lot of people at the same time. This fifth chakra in fact is all about connection be it in this time or through time with ourselves, with other aspects of ourselves in other places and times and with other people and in fact all living things. It is the through connection that we experience wholeness.


So I have been an explorer on a journey of connection recently; seeing connection and disconnection in different ways in my life. I have connected to three particular experiences that have illustrated something really powerful to me.


The first was taking my son to the kids club cinema showing of a film at a large local cinema one Sunday morning a couple of weeks ago. As we stood in the queue, waiting to get our tickets, something really profound happened. There was a lady, with her little girl, nervously asking the cashier – a kind young student – if there had been a change in pricing policy. As she had understood, tickets for the kids club were £2.50 for the child and free for the adult. The cashier explained that the policy had changed and it was now £2.50 for each of them. She looked quite embarrassed as she explained that she had saved this £2.50 out of all of their weekly budget thinking it would be £2.50 in total, and that her small daughter had walked with her for 2 miles with the excitement of coming to the cinema, because that was all they had that day. This lady hadn’t understood that the policy had changed and she didn’t want to disappoint her child, and asked if they could please just make an allowance on this occasion. The cashier looked sad and uncomfortable as he shrugged his shoulders and said he couldn’t do anything. And then the tears and cries of sadness and disappointment of the little girl started. And despite his discomfort, the cashier – obviously a kind-hearted young man – didn’t feel able to change company policy. His discomfort with not “following orders” was understandably greater than his ability to connect.


My son, in another situation a few days later, bless his little heart, got his fingers seriously caught in a coffee shop door. My little munchkin is a very brave soul and so to hear him screaming in agony – which he did at first for over 10 minutes before then just crying gently for another 20, really showed me how much pain was in, and I worried for a while, as two of his fingers started to swell, that he might have broken them. A member of staff instantly rushed over, with a plastic disposable glove filled with ice, and a toy car from the toy box to cheer him up. Which she let him keep. After some time of the screaming, we were met with another lovely surprise. A lady, working in a shop across the road, had obviously heard the commotion and came over with a beautiful garden windmill toy thing for my son and just blew on it to cheer him up. As the windmill whizzed round, he started to giggle, and once he was calmer, she gave it to him with a smile and wandered off.


Both of these people worked for other companies – one feeling unable to step beyond company policy to help a poor mum, over £2.50, another who just acted from heart, knowing that the needs of the child mattered more. Of course, had there been a parent on the desk at the cinema, maybe the outcome would have been different. But something struck me. How we connect – and disconnect – really makes a difference to the lives of others.


I believe that we journey in this human life so that we can discover and connect with how infinitely powerful we are. So in order to stay powerless and disconnected, and keep ourselves in this adventure of Life, we have to block the connection that would make us whole, a connection to all of time and the cosmos, our infinite love with ourselves and each other, our health and our true power.


So how do we block it? We do things that disrupt our immune system physically – take drugs, eat sugar, food grown with pesticides, surround ourselves with chemical toxins such as chemical toiletries and air fresheners and drink polluted water. Another way we disconnect is through shoot-them-up gaming. All of these activities we can change and keep our immune systems strong.


But emotionally, we stuff our deepest darkest fears and emotions into the “fifth” within ourselves, the bits that we really don’t want to see or acknowledge about ourselves. This “fifth” – the extra chakra between the heart and the throat which through it’s ratio to the other chakras – which brings harmony, wholeness and love – is where our deepest fears predominately live, and act as a block to our connecting.


Fears of whether we will be “told off” or even lose our jobs, our security, if we act with compassion and generously with our whole hearts, even when we see another in distress, especially a child.


Yet as a write a huge situation is unfolding in Nairobi, in a shopping centre where dozens have been killed. I don’t watch the news much anymore, not because I don’t care, but because I like to focus on empowering positive news, which tends to be more easily available online. I happened to catch, however, an interview with a young Kenyan man who saved 15 lives in the shopping mall. He said that he was blown away by seeing – through the tragedy and devastation – the genuine loving generous support of strangers – true humanity in action, helplessly striving to help those affected.


Some of us maybe feel afraid to act independently in the presence of “greater rules” or “company policy” – but when the rules no longer apply, when everything is blown (literally) – then always there is an immediate return to love. There is a reconnection.


So many of us connect to each other without tragedy – we can do it through joy because we feel the connection that joy brings. 


In a world where how we connect has revolutionized, it is an opportunity for all of us – businesses included – to look at any remaining ways in which we may be disconnected and change that. In an era of connectivity, what can we do to have agreater connection with ourselves and each other?